Self-Care
Self-Care
I’m sad to say that I
have been the humbled student of this subject over and over again. The more
tired I am, the angrier I am. When my cup is filled, I am far more loving. This
has been a difficult lesson for me to realize: when I’m taking care of me, I’m
taking care of them. Or in other words, I’m a kind nurturing Mother as I take
care of myself.
Self-care is important as a parent. If it’s not strictly
insisted upon, it will never happen. Mothers have been known to wash their hair
once a week, leave dirty stained clothes on all day, and shower infrequently.
Fathers have been known to live on energy drinks from sleepless nights, and go to
work the following morning. Frozen, fast, and easy food is the extent of healthy
eating. Marriages are challenged, health is taxed, and sometimes even accidents
happen under such strenuous parenting circumstances as having a newborn baby.
People probably wonder why parents wear fanny
packs, circles under their eyes, and seem to let go of all things self-care
sometimes. The truth is, parents used to take great care of how they dress. Their
hair used to be in the current decade of fashion, and they even spent time
working out, or reading a book. It's not that parents don't care anymore. When
parenthood starts off with being tired from a difficult pregnancy, a long labor
usually at night, followed by being awakened all night the following months to
feed the baby....it's no wonder that parents are a little tired right from the
starting line. Taking time for yourself is like learning how to walk again. It
was easy before when it was only you to care for. When there are four people to
get fed, read scriptures to, dressed and ready for the gym, it’s a whole other
ball game to go.
Elder Marion G. Romney said, "Without
self-reliance one cannot exercise these innate desires to serve. How can we
give if there is nothing there? Food for the hungry cannot come from empty
shelves. Money to assist the needy cannot come from an empty purse. Support
and understanding cannot come from the emotionally starved. Teaching cannot
come from the unlearned. And most important of all, spiritual guidance cannot
come from the spiritually weak."
President Marion G. Romney "The Celestial Nature of
Self-Reliance" (Links to an external site.) October
1982 General Conference
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What we soon realize is how one cares for themselves, is
how their children will most likely care for themselves, at least for a portion
of their lives. Intelligence is passed onto children by living our daily lives.
Children can learn to cook, clean, work, and always be learning and reading.
They can learn how to serve others. Children can follow their parents examples
of seeking higher payed positions based on what parents expect of themselves
and their kids. Most importantly, children can learn to rely on God when shown
how to be spiritually reliant on him. This comes while children watch their
parents say their prayers, thank God for their blessings, and read from the
scriptures.
Spiritual self-care is essential to teach the next
generation. Sometimes parents can work to improve their own time spent with God
every day. Kids can see our example and see how important it is to do the same.
Mother Teresa said, “Spread love wherever you go. Let no one ever come to you
without leaving happier.” My Mother was good at this while I was a teenager. I remember
when I was a young teenager, I was very unkind to my Mom. I had a destructive
personality, but I was always amazed that she was there to listen to me. She
had a spiritual strength that I could feel. The bricks of her soul I had
knocked down only the day before with my degrading comments and temper were
always reconstructed the next day. I later realized it was her reading the book
of Mormon every day and writing in her journal that had replenished her spirit
to be good Mother to me, although I didn’t deserve it. I’ll always be grateful
for her staying strong and loving me during that time.
In short, when taking care of ourselves-without being
selfish- we are teaching our kids how to love themselves. They intuitively
understand that they are worth taking care of themselves. The older generation has
so much power in teaching the younger generation that its’ ok to invest
mentally, spiritually, and physically in themselves, the more they can
contribute to everyone around them.
References
President Marion G. Romney "The Celestial Nature of
Self-Reliance" (Links to an external site.) October
1982 General Conference
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